Lauder Lass’s ears

As most of you probably know already, when Lauder Lass was first seen by her admirers, her neck was thin, her ribs –  well you could just about have played the piano on them, that is if you could have got any where near her! Her head looked far, far too big for her body and her ears, well they looked something very similar  to donkey ears! in fact to sum her up, in the early days she looked completely out of proportion, with her hip bones just about being as pointy as two carrots poking out of her skin and her breast bone looked not far off the same.


From the previous posts you may also have read that it took an age to not only get any where near her body but to touch her took even longer. However, as time has gone on and her faith in the human race increased, she now adores the comfort of the human touch, to the point she now falls asleep instead of dashing in to a corner out of fear and pretending to be asleep.


As  can be seen by the first photo below, we often hold her feed bucket and this certainly has helped her to have confidence in us, where as before it was almost as if she had, in her past life, been cajoled in to eating and by the way she reacted initially when we first came across her, it was as if she had experienced some form of infliction of pain and connected food with the same, hence why we think she refused to eat. So to see her now feeling at ease or relaxed when eating is truly a complete joy.



From the picture below you can see her accepting her ears being tweaked without a fear of them being yanked or hurt. When you do this with her, the sense of trust and joy is overwhelming and really makes you think that all the time her visitors and us have spent on her has been 100% worthwhile.  You may know that warm sensation you get from a warming hot water bottle, well the feeling when you manage to achieve each new step of her confidence is as heart warming and an experience many never ever forget.




Lauder Lass, you really have gone way beyond everyone’s expectations of you, well done Lady, you deserve an animal medal for  the courage you have had to regain your faith in human kind.


With a million thanks also to all her visitors and followers who have given her the time to heal. As the saying goes, time is the greatest healer.

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The newbies on the block – are they friends or foes!

Yeap, you guessed it, the two newbies are little piggies, called Peppa and Pop! Peppa being the lighter one and Pop being the darker one or the slightly plumper one.

Although with four legs supporting these, somewhat, dumpy bodies, just like four legs support the stunning outline of the Equine and Canine world, one would think that there was not much of a to do to adjust to when it comes down to meeting the other 4 legged creatures. But clearly this is not the case.

But introducing new animals is a massive learning curve for all, not only for the carer, but also for each animal who crosses their path, or in this case, who absolutely decided not to cross their path, even from 30 metres away! When introducing any new animal to another/others it is always best to have some form of fence in between each breed, if nothing else but to make sure neither become either pancaked or demolished or kicked in to oblivion! So this we naturally did, with 6ft fence between each!

Although these little piggies had kept quite a ‘piggy life’ before, they had never met horses or the same type of black and white dotty dogs before. Going by the reaction and knowing the History of three of the horses, it was clear that three of the horses in the vicinity had come across this snorting breed before, but it was more than clear that two had not! In fact the snorting from the piggies and the snorting from two of the horses sounded, almost, like an ‘in house competition!’ However, little did the horses realise that actually, the snorting from the pigs is their natural sound, yet a horse, generally snorts when unsure of something. So, from a horses perspective, you can understand why a horse would be scared of the sound of these little piggies, who were not even the size of half a horses leg!






Above are the ones who had the confidence to venture fairly closely without much of a to do, however, once the others realised there were newbies on the block, mmmmm, ears were up, equine snorting could be heard loud and clear but after a few flighty moments, they did return, but only to a safe distance away – approximately 40 metres!

A night went past and the original confident three horses joined us in the usual routine, however the other two decided, no, we are not speaking, we are not going any where near their pen or indeed the gateway to the yard. ‘We’ve drawn a line right across the field’ seemed to be their motto, and if they were to have any breakfast at all we had to take it to them! Talk about putting their heels down!.

By the afternoon of the second day and because of the amount of times these piggies were checked (just to make sure they hadn’t escaped) all the horses became rather nosey, perhaps they were feeling as if they were going to miss out on something! A piece of apple, or carrot or a bit of cabbage! Or was it banana! Added to their growing confidence was probably helped by the dogs running round the round pen, just as they normally do and have done for months. In fact normally a round pen has a worn track round the inside of the pen, but no, not our one, Our one has a dogs’ motorway round the outside, initiated by our rescued Collie. A wirey dog, one with a fox face, a typical ‘wired to the moon and back Collie dog, but with the sweetest of nature . . butter wouldn’t melt type of nature.

Our office in the Summer time is often one of the paddocks or the barn. But since the piggies arrived we now have an extra office. An office with a difference. One where you can feel relaxed, enjoy the antics of dotty pigs running around doing pirouettes of happiness creating hilarity along the way as well, or a horse meandering past, or a chicken sitting, obediently, along side your cup of coffee! All this brings a sense of peace while talking business. It certainly beats sitting under fluorescent light bulbs and buzzing traffic or honking taxi’s and buses every two minutes. O thank goodness for the Internet!

Apologies, we digressed! So, after regular checks the pigs seemed to settle in to their new abode, but were ultra happy at being able to dig up and eat the grass and nettle roots! (which was, after all, the reason why they were taken on in the first place- to hopefully prevent us from strimming in the summer months!)

Day 3 found us adjusted to the new routine, all animals checked, dogs let out, geese let out and fed, pigs fed, hens fed then it’s breakfast and grooming time for the horses. However on this morning while in the round pen. Lauder Lass decided to pluck up the courage to venture forward, nothing to do with sound of chopping or the smell of carrots or bread on the table inside the round pen of course. It was as if she was watching the pigs with one eye and the other was totally concentrating on the food below her nose albeit it at the other side of the fence. Having scattered some bread on the ground for the piggies it left a spare second to give her a wee slice of carrot through the spar, and bless her she took it. That little experience seemed to break the ice between her and the piggies, I guess she thought, well, ‘if they eat the same kind of food as me, then they can’t be all that bad after all’.



From this day on, she seemed to have an understanding of them but what she would do if they were free in the field is indeed another question.

Let’s see what happens in the next saga of the Horse and pig world.



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Lauder Lass tries to scavenge the Gosling food, and her frightening ‘Drone’ experience!

It’s been a busy summer here, but sadly with little Sunshine. However, it has seen the birth of some goslings and ducklings, an increased curiosity streak in Lauder Lass with the added bit of impudence! Bless every step she takes.


These photo’s of her article in The Lauderdale News kind of sums up some of her Summer time experiences!






Who would ever have imagined that she would become as brave as this . .



She’s so brave now that she even tries to open handbags just to see if there is anything  extra tasty in them! Bless her.



Please do pass on this information about drones to any one you know who may be considering buying one. On behalf of other animals who could become as scared as Lauder Lass – thank you.

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Lauder Lass helps to reassure new ‘Neigh’bours!

Some mare’s are just Mare’ish to Newbies, some just don’t accept new neighbours at all and there are those who just seem to ooze calmness straight away, and this is one thing that Lauder Lass has proven she can do.

It’s as if she can read what each individual needs, whether it be a telling off or a little bit of reassurance or some Motherly loving and caring for those who, for whatever reason, feel insecure or who were perhaps starved of their own natural Mothers bonding/comforting.

These photo’s say it all, there’s not a nasty bone in Lauder Lass’s body and that reassurance is all that many animals need, and she is definitely one who can give a tonne of that, probably all thanks to the mass amount of fear she has succeeded in addressing, with many thanks to all her human and equine friends and her mentor /  idol ‘ Didget Doo’ who is sadly missed by all who knew her.


And let me smell you ..


You’ll be okay here young ones . . don’t worry, now just relax those whites of your eyes!

I was once scared of all human kind, my mane was matted and my tail dragged along the ground, I still have an indentation round my neck and the scars to prove the abuse I had experienced in a past life, but I have accepted the past is the past and we should only take the positives in life forward. It is thanks to the kindness of the humans who have befriended me that has made me the way I am today. So, don’t be frightened of this new chapter in your book of life. I will help you and you are also part of my positive chapters in my book of life.


Let me smell to sense what you’ve been lying on.


‘Are you sure we’ll be okay here big white lady?’ ” Yes, I’m sure” says Lauder Lass


Well done, the whites of your eyes have relaxed. Now just stay relaxed says Lauder Lass.


We work at 50/50 here, see, we can walk with each other on an equal level.


Now then what did you have for breakfast?


Walking with each other should always be with 50/50 understanding.


Now then, let me smell to see what you have had for breakfast and tea for the last few days.


50/50 understanding achieved.


Walking ahead is inconsiderate, walking behind is debilitating, walking with each other means

acceptance, inclusion and 50/50 understanding – the way it should be for all animals, humans included. So, the lesson in this little picture is – always walk with someone, no matter how slow they go, make them feel included in Society by walking on an equal footing.


See, no nasty or toady faces needed.


And what did you have for breakfast then?


Didget Doo, you taught Lauder Lass well and  you are still hugely missed and will never be forgotten.

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Life returns to normal . . sort of

Well, at long last Lauder Lass has her feathery friends outside and her morning lix resumes  . . . .  but notice that she is not letting any one else have a look in . . . proof that she is definitely Queen Bee mark 2.



But when it comes to role reversal . . . it’s a No! she’s an adorable minx!


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A summary of the Winter Months

This is a little summary thanks to the Lauderdale News magazine.


Fear leads to anxiety

Genuine Care and Support leads to  Trust

Trust leads to Contentment and Happiness

Happiness leads to Happiness for All



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Julia Biela, Ecotourism Student and Advocate of Elephants visits Lauder Lass


Lauder Lass continues to have visitors, some of her visitors have been coming since day 1, some who wish to remain anonymous, others of a younger age group and others who are making their footstep known in the world with regards encouraging all animals to have their voice and choice heard in what can be an extremely human domineering or dictatorial world, resulting in many being abused, suffocated and their spirits crushed with no thanks to ‘the humans need for control or purely utilising them for financial gain’ such as Elephants, donkey’s, camels, dancing bears and many others who are being used on a daily basis for the tourist industry, but sadly, with no or very few thoughts towards the sanity of the individual animals used.


Well Julia Biela, a gentle lady, a lady who wouldn’t hurt a mouse and who fully appreciates the cruelty that goes before any animals are used for the tourism industry decided to take some time out from her dissertation studying to visit Lauder Lass and Lauder Lass’s furry, hairy and feathery friends.




Julia had an an innate understanding of Lauder Lass’s sensitive but now massively gentle heart. It was a day that we will always remember Julia’s smile spreading from ear to ear all day long.


After being introduced in the usual gentle way, with Lauder Lass’s main carer being the initial mediator, Lauder Lass and Julia were left to have some quiet time together where no words were spoken but the silent moments covered a hundred different feelings. The silent tears, the burning heart, the joy and the sheer delight were just some of them. Ultimately the thing that Julia seemed to find most beautiful was to see Lauder Lass galloping off to her place in her field, the only field where no man or human has ever threatened to harm her, a place where she can call her own, amongst non threatening friends who now accept her as the Matriarchal mare, a position that she  should have experienced long before she did but was never given the chance.


Julia picked up on the scars on her nose, the indentation round her neck, the indentations under  her front knees as well as the slight protrusion that can still be felt across her nose, although these are not so apparent now with Lauder Lass having put on quite a bit of weight since she first arrived. But what she truly felt was the trust, the care, the gentleness and understanding she now holds for humans, even although a number of years ago she would rather have jumped  any  wall or gate to get away from them.


This day was a special day for Julia and our Unicorn Lauder Lass, a day which both will remember, a day where emotions to the core of hearts were felt from past to present,  but ended with a complete sense of ‘at ease’  with an air of graciousness and complete appreciation for all the months, weeks, hours and minutes Lauder Lass had been given to allow her to get over the fear of her past experiences which now, mostly anyway, have been put in to the back of a cupboard, at least until the next person who comes along with a language that she just does not accept, all because of the horrific memories of years gone by. However, if someone does show signs of ‘negative language’Lauder Lass is quick to tell them, but never in a nasty way – she just chooses to step back until they have been guided to communicate in a way that is acceptable to her – 50/50 understanding.


Thank you Julia for coming down to visit Lauder Lass, and we all wish you the very very best in your future vocation in life but more importantly we wish you well in Thailand where you will be spending time amongst Elephants in the Forrest. Just don’t forget we want to hear all about your  trip.


Thank you.







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Lauder Lass still touches the hearts of her visitors.

If you did not meet Lauder Lass prior to her book coming out a few years ago,  the change in her has been overwhelming, as those of you who have read her book and visited her over the last couple of years will have seen. At the time of her book being written there was one picture missing or one that had to be thought up, and that was the one where a hand had been sketched on her forehead – an area  that was an absolutely no go area, yet the day her book was published, if your body language was correct, could be achieved.


Lauder Lass had three wonderful visitors the other day, one of whom had described her book  to the other two who had come up from Englandshire. We will call the first visitor Joan, a lovely softly spoken, unassuming, kind and extremely caring lady with the biggest heart of gold – something rarely seen these days. Well, because she had read Lauder Lass’s book, and had clearly felt every emotion, fear, scare and moment of anxiety Lauder Lass had previously felt, she knew she needed to be sensitive to Lauder Lass’s moves and that her own body language had to remain calm. But no matter the relaying she had given her visitors there was one, who did not realise how calm he had to be until Lauder Lass told him.But she did not tell him in a nasty way, she just jerked her head back and said, mmm, well I wont be going too close to you until I sense you have learnt your lesson about being  a little too forward for such a beast as me!


The other lovely person had not been beside a horse for a number of years but Lauder Lass’s presence and character  reminded her of a horse from her past which resulted in this very moment being extremely moving, a heart rendering moment, one which brought memories flooding back. This lady, let’s call her Alice, didn’t have to say many words but her expression in her eyes said a million words. Lauder Lass, again being so intuitive, seemed to understand Alice’s emotions. Lauder Lass’s eyes at this stage were soft, her presence seemed to be oozing, ‘you’re okay, I wont hurt you’ – a beautiful moment, a tear jerking moment for us all. It was one of those moments that even just trying to put it in to words here does not even touch on that magical moment and we are sure it was one moment in time that took Alice back not just months but years, a moment she will never forget. Because of this being such a special day for Alice, we gently encouraged Lauder Lass to place her head as close to Alice’s shoulder as possible, so that Alice’s memories could be comforted by similar feelings that she had so many moons ago.


Back on to the second person who had given her  a bit of  a fright, it was only a matter of a few minutes, helped along by Joan and Alice’s gentle reactions,  before Lauder Lass almost said to him ( in her way),  well you have learnt your lesson I will come back to you. Now it seems that Men don’t seem to ‘want to accept’ that perhaps they can be a bit forceful, and they certainly don’t like to be verbally told, least of all by women, that they need to back off a bit, but Lauder Lass, in her own silent way, manages every time to put them in their place, but above all. she manages it in an acceptable way, without any form of verbal back lash.


As someone said just a few months ago, every one needs a doze of Lauder Lasserapy every now and then to bring them back in to check.


So, a little message for Lauder Lass –  keep up your extra sensitive assessment of people, keep teaching them the most important lesson in life that ‘even the smallest signs of aggression’ is totally unnecessary but silent rejection is the most powerful tool that any animal – including humans, can use to get an immediate change in a person / animal.


Lauder Lass, the amount of people you have helped towards changing negative habits of a life time in to positive habits is way beyond any one’s expectations, and we all would like to thank you for that.



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Lauder Lass welcomes her stable mates!

Almost a full month has seen Lauder Lass’s field starved of the physical presence of her feathered friends due to the Avian Flu Scare. This has meant that none of the Poultry have been allowed to wander, at their leisure,wp_20161107_014 but their vocal songs have been well and truly heard, so Lauder Lass knew they were around, just out of sight, but clearly not out of mind.


As we said in the previous post Lauder Lass’s stable has been used as a wet and dry area through the day for the geese and ducks, with various toys to relieve any potential boredom. So they have had old cd’s hanging from haynets, empty plastic bottles and footballs, and lids of Tupperware tubs to move around like a football! Watching them has been truly comical, but had Lauder Lass seen all this hilarity she may well have declined from entering her stable altogether, at least until all the wobbly things had been removed. However, as night time draws in the geese and ducks are ushered through to their stable and their day time abode is disinfected and hosed down.


Although the ducks and geese have their designated stable at night time, there are two Muscovy Ducks who, when they first arrived, preferred to stay with the Hen and the Cockerel who arrived just a few weeks before hand. However, with no poultry being allowed outside the two Muscovy’s had to be separated  from their two newfound friends and were put in with the other ‘normal’ ducks! or those without an identity crisis during the day but at night time, they preferred to have the whole of Lauder Lass’s stable to themselves! Actually the main reason why they probably preferred her stable is that they get the first pickings of breakfast before the onslaught of the other 42 webbed feet arrive on the scene.


On the evenings that Lauder Lass  comes in, the dry area which the geese and ducks use as a thirty wink siesta  , is put aside and the wet area hosed in readiness for her stable to be put back down for her use, but an area under her bench is used by the Muscovy’s.


To our surprise Lauder Lass is not phased by having the two Muscovy’  as stable companions, infact you could almost sense a thought of  ‘good to see you again’ with no sign of ‘o my goodness, what are these two flighty things doing in my stable’. They both have an air of ‘respect’ for each other. Just imagine what she would have done on that first day she arrived – she would probably have tried to jump out of one of the stable doors out of sheer fear! Bless her.





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A wonderful early Christmas Donation.

A wonderful parcel arrived in the post today for Lauder Lass, a box of two rugs, how so kind. One of them is a little small for her but it fits little Chessie just fine ( Chessie was another abused pony – but he was not quite as petrified as Lauder Lass – he had been abused, sadly by the human male specie! but who has learnt that if he is spoken to in Chessie language, will be the most adoring cuddleerapy pony out) . SO a massive thank you to not only the person who donated them ( who knows who she is) but also to Heather Rayment for organising the collection and posting of them.













Straight from the horses mouth ‘  thank you so, so much’. It’s great to have a spare one or two, especially when you live in the UK where you don’t know what the weather is going to do from one minute to the next!


I did try it on and it fits wonderfully well, but ‘silly clogs’ forgot to take her camera up! so she said she would post a photo later on! perhaps she will wait until the buckle is fixed.


Thank you once again to all who have donated and continue to support this most amazing horse, who truly deserves a medal for overcoming her massive fear of the human race, and thanks to all her visitors, has learnt to, in her way, trust again.


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